You are called. There is no taking it away or changing it and you don’t get to choose how you are called. I love in 1 Samuel 16 where the prophet Samuel shows up to Jesse’s house and he informs him that one of his sons will be anointed as the next king. The reality was the son that was chosen was the son that his father would never have thought could be a king. You see, the father didn’t get to choose which son would be chosen and neither did David! God already had the calling on David’s life. In fact, most people in the bible don’t get called in this magnificently beautiful way but in a way that we would never think possible. The thing about calling is we don’t get to choose how or what it looks like. More times than not, God shows up not when you are doing mighty and great things (although He is with you there too) but He shows up in the everyday ordinary, when we are being faithful with whats in our hands. So often we have this idea of wanting to do something great for God and most times God is just wanting us to be faithful where we are. The other thing about calling is you don’t get to choose where you are called to. It’s not about what is convenient for you at the time, in fact, majority of the time it’s a place that will take you out of your comfort zone and where you fully have to rely on God. God will surround you with the most unlikely people who speak potential into your life and who start to unlock those God given dreams. We get to our calling by us putting a stop on limiting where and how God can use us. We have to be available for what He has planned for us. Trust me when I say, when God is ready… be ready! He can make anything happen at any moment and He will use those who are being faithful in the ordinary. So friend, whether you think so or not God has a call on your life and it will happen in His time at the right time! XO
Do you have “that” garage? The one where you can tell the difference on where the wife and husband organizes things. Whether or not you are the organized one, we all have this problem. Recently I was cleaning out the garage and I asked my husband what he needed and to get rid of, but like most men he wouldn’t let me throw away any tools. As I looked around I could tell that most of them haven’t been used in years. I began to think how common this is in our own life, we have all these tools available to us but yet they are all scattered around and not being used. If we are going to do everything that God has called us to then we have to have the right tools in place. I love the way my husband puts it (which justified him keeping all his tools)- without the right tools even simple projects are impossible. Here are 5 things I believe we should have in our “toolbox” to be successful:
Good books. The most important thing that we can do is read! Maybe you aren’t a reader, try to do audio books. In today’s world there are several options for books that it is nearly impossible to not listen or read a good book. These are the books that are a must read for me every year:
- Tales of 3 Kings
- Imagine Big
- 4:8 Principle
Good thoughts. This probably sounds silly but one thing I can guarantee that most people don’t put into their schedule is time to think. We can’t hear what God is telling us if we are too busy filling our minds with the noise of our daily life. Good thoughts come from being quiet and stopping to think intentionally.
Good listening. It’s one thing to hear something and another to completely listen. We must listen without trying to get a response and listen with an intent to ask questions for greater understanding. Take time to not just hear people but listen to them too.
Good habits. Create habits that are for you and not for other people. Too often our calendar is filled with things to please other people but I want to ask you, what are you doing for you? Start with one good daily habit. Ask yourself, what is the one area I want to see growth in? Start there, and put a habit in place to get to that goal!
Having good friends. Surround yourself with people who will keep you accountable (with the above habits) and encourage you along the way. The people you surround yourself with will determine where you end up down the road. Good friends should challenge the way you live your life.
I hope and pray that as we go into this new year we are more intentional about the tools we have in our toolbox to be more successful and live the life God has designed for you! Cheering you on! XO
You were created on purpose for a purpose. I don’t just say this but I truly believe it. You can read in Genesis 1 that everything God created was made with seed within itself. In other words, God is letting us know that from the very beginning of creation 1) all you need is already on the inside of you and 2) He created us with multiplication in mind. Most of us look around at our lives right now and think it’s anything but significant and then we start to question our purpose. Did you know over 80% of Christians do not know what their purpose in life is. Let’s put it this way, what if 80% of our body didn’t function the way it was supposed to? We wouldn’t be able to do a lot of things that we do on a daily basis. Are you a part of that 80%, do you ever feel like everyone has a calling for their life but God has forgotten about you? You are not forgotten and God has good things in store for you! You are here for a purpose and I want to help you figure that out by asking yourself these simple questions:
- What do you do that is effortless for you? Think of something in your life that doesn’t feel like work to you and just comes natural. If you can’t think of anything off the top of your head be observant of what that looks like for you over the next couple of days. Maybe it’s even something that you naturally go to that brings you peace. It looks different for most people, some it may be it’s organizing, for some it’s planning parties, others it could be teaching. It could be anything, what does that look like for you?
- What areas are you a go-to person? Look over your life and think about the things that people constantly ask you about or get your advice on. What do people ask for your help that comes naturally to you?
- What do you wish you could stop doing? This alone will help you realize what you are not called to do so you can stop wasting your time. Whatever this is, it will make you feel heavy and be exhausting to you. What is it about this task that you don’t enjoy and that will help lead to what you do enjoy!
- What environments are you drawn to? This could be an area that makes you come alive when you are in it, something that you love to be around. It could be in an office space, being outdoors, maybe a coffee shop, something that brings you joy when you are in it.
- What do you shy away from? Usually those are indicators for your calling. Most people don’t just jump into their calling, they tend to make us scared and nervous because we aren’t comfortable in that area and we shy away. Is there an area in your life where you keep being drawn to but you shy away from?
Friend, you are here for a purpose and I can’t wait to hear about how God uses you in that! Cheering you on heart and soul. XO
What got you here will get you there. God spoke this to me on a run one day when I was praying about how to handle everything going on right now. This took me by surprise because this is opposite of what we generally hear from leadership advice. I’ve noticed during this quarantine period and COVID outbreak that a lot of people are trying to change the way they do things or change who they are. I’m all about growth and self improvement but I think in times of crisis we have to return to the things that we already know. In a world full of things that don’t make sense and we honestly can’t even plan for the next week we have to return to the things that have been pillars in our life. One of those things for me is that “my heart is my responsibility”. You see we can delegate out a bunch of things in our life, who cleans our house, who picks up your coffee, tasks around the office, etc but the one thing you can not delegate out is your heart. These are the things that I remind myself of in a season of uncertainty or frustration.
- What are you choosing to focus on? We have a world that is shouting for our attention. Even our families and our jobs are but what you choose to focus on is one of the most important decisions that you can make. Everyday whatever is right before you is going to begin to dictate the state of your heart. I have the choice and the responsibility to what I am going to focus on and put my attention on for the day!
- The story you tell yourself. What is the story you are telling yourself about a certain area? The story you are telling yourself around what happened is more important than the event itself. This story is affecting whether you are living in hope, faith, and love or in fear, anxiousness, and despair. An offended moment will only last 10 seconds but the story you tell yourself after that 10 seconds can impact you for the rest of your life. How are you writing your story? It’s your responsibility!
Ask yourself these questions:
- What am I not seeing around me because my heart has become critical?
- When is the last time you have just talked to someone about the good things God has done?
Openness, spiritual hunger, gratitude and receptivity are all attributes of a healthy heart. We have a responsibility everyday and what you choose to focus on and tell yourself will dictate how you live your life and handle everyday situations. Your heart is your responsibility! XO
If there is anything we can say about the time we are living in right now is that it is unusual and uncharted. Whether you are leading a company, a church, your family, friends, whatever it is nobody has been through this before. In life we have a picture of what a wedding looks like, what starting a business looks like, what starting a church looks like, and etc. There are books, podcasts, youtube videos, and all kinds of resources out there to help guide you but not for this type of pandemic. The good news is- you get to define and label this season for you, your family, and your life. What are you going to remember from this season? You can be in a season of life where things are bad but there are also always good things. Which are you choosing to take with you? Everybody takes things differently and that’s okay. We must remember that just because we are taking something one way someone else may not be. Have grace for others around you because everyone processes differently but I can know this, God is doing something great even though it may look differently right now! My family and I have discussed some ways that we are striving to define this season of our lives and I want to share those with you!
- Looking for opportunity in obstacles. It’s easy to focus on everything you can’t do during this time but instead look for opportunities in those obstacles. More millionaires were made during the great depression than any time in history. It’s because they chose to see something differently and saw the opportunities in the midst of obstacles! The opportunity may not be a business idea but just getting quality family time in and starting game night or family dinners. It’s time to start to appreciate what we’ve taken for granted for so long.
- The value of connection. We’ve been told to social distance but more than ever we have to be intentional about reaching out to people in our life. We get so busy making a living that we haven’t been building a life that we want. Social distancing has made us pause and realize the connections you need with the people you love and that’s what is most important. Let love be the definition of this season.
- Serve and love others. This is simple, give more and love more to others. This isn’t a time to hoard and only think about yourself. What do others need from you in this season?
- Slow down. For the first time in a long time the evenings have been quiet and not full of here and there. No sports or extracurricular activities filling our calendars. There is a sweetness about this time, enjoy this time and season with your family and friends. We have to learn to be okay with the quiet!
- Remember this was a time of prayer. We are told to social distance but we can’t spiritual distance. In fact we need to lean in more than ever before. Stay away from the media and get into the word! Be in prayer always.
Friend, if God is for you, who can be against you! Wherever this finds you remember you have the opportunity to define this season of your life. What will you say? XO