Parenting is one of the hardest and most rewarding things you could ever do. I think one of the main things we can struggle with as parents is the feeling of guilt. You could be a stay at home parent or a working parent, but either way there is an area in your life where you feel guilty. Guilty that you aren’t spending enough time on yourself, guilty that you aren’t spending enough time with your kids, and the list goes on. It’s a continuous cycle, but I want to remind you today that when you are feeling guilty that is not from God. We tend to think that God may be telling us that we should be spending more time with our kids instead of going to that meeting and making you feel guilty about your choices but anytime that God wants to tell you something it’s going to come from a loving and encouraging place. He will never make you feel like you are a bad parent. Another challenge that we face as parents is how to incorporate God’s word into their lives. I think most people think you sit with your child and read the Bible daily and as great as that would be it’s just not true all of the time. And all of my parents said Amen! The easiest way to get our children to know the word of God is to live it and speak it. We know that kids are watching and listening to everything we say, so if we are speaking God’s word over them then they are in turn learning God’s word from a young age. Sometimes this looks like speaking things about your kids that aren’t as they are. If your child is going through a rebellious stage, stop talking about it and start speaking that your child is a child of God who loves the Lord. The Bible tells us that death and life are in the power of the tongue, what we speak we become. The words that we speak are the shoes of potential that we are putting on our children. As parents its our job to show our children who they are and whose they are. In Psalms 112:2 the Bible tells us, “His [spiritual] offspring shall be mighty upon earth; the generation of the upright shall be blessed.” It’s about letting our kids know they are created on purpose for a purpose. Your kids and my kids are watching more of how we do what we do more than what we do. How are you responding to that person who didn’t treat you right or that family member who frustrates you? You won’t have to make your kids be generous, pray, or read the Bible but when they see that you are doing all those things they will start to as well. Friend, I’m not saying being a parent is easy but it sure will make things a lot easier when what you do matches up with what you’re saying. Some days are better than others but at the end of the day you were called to be your kids parents and you are doing a great job! XO
The days fly by! I find myself saying this all the time because if we don’t have control of our schedule it takes control of us. If we want to see goals and dreams come to pass we must start scheduling our days to line up with our goals. The first step in this is having a foundation or vision for your schedule. If you don’t have a vision for your life then you don’t know what’s important to you and your day. Then you can’t determine what to say no to and what you should say yes to. Why do you do what you do? It doesn’t have to be complicated, it can be something as simple as- I want to be the best stay at home mom and wife to my husband! Once you have a clear vision then you can move towards setting goals that align with your vision. Too often when an opportunity is presented to us we ask ourselves “can I fit this into my schedule” instead of asking “is this something I should be doing”. If it doesn’t line up with your vision, just because you can do it doesnt mean you should do it. 80% of the world lives crisis to crisis with no vision or goals for where they want to be in life! If we aren’t careful and spending our time wisely we end up being a part of that statistic. When you are goal setting it is important to remember to keep them measurable. Measurable goals help you to know if you are making progress or not. For example, if you goal is to lose weight then you need to add working out to your daily or weekly schedule. Keep yourself accountable for those goals and if they aren’t working, that’s okay, redirect them! After all, this is your life. Once you’ve figured out your goals then you can define what your priorities are. When you set these in place it makes setting your schedule for the day, week, or month easier because now you are fitting these priorities into your schedule. I love what the Bible tells us in Habakkuk 2:2, “Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it.” When we keep our vision and goals before us at all times, we can’t help but run after our goals!
Friends, let’s start to be investors of our time instead of spending our time. Sometimes it is simply just asking God what do you want me to do today and how is my time best invested. Take control of your schedule, don’t let it take control of you! XO
I am scared of the dark! You would think as we get older that would go away but now the more I know, the more scarier the dark is. I love in Isaiah 60:1-2 where the Bible tells us, “Arise, shine, for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord rises upon you. See, darkness covers the earth and thick darkness is over the peoples, but the Lord rises upon you and his glory appears over you.” The term darkness here means uncertainty, confusion, and fear. You see, that’s how most of us start our day. We wake up and listen to the news full bad things happening which makes us fear the day which is exactly what the enemy wants. The enemy will always try to use fear to take away what is rightfully yours. He knows that as a child of God you have access to everything God is and the only way to get you away from that is to get you to live in fear. So here’s the thing with society today- we do not have a darkness problem, we have a light problem! What do you do when you walk into a dark room? You turn on the light, you don’t try and change the environment or the furniture to make it brighter so why are we trying to do that in the world? We have to stop trying to change everything around us to bring light when the Bible tells us WE are the light! That means you and me. So if there is a darkness problem in the earth that means God’s people aren’t shining His light. He’s called us to arise, shine, for your light has come. This isn’t something that is coming when circumstances change, it’s here already. If you are wanting things to change then you have to be the light in the situation. Too often we are waiting on God to do something when actually God is waiting on us to stand up and shine. We see this even as far as the beginning of time. God saw darkness and said let there be light. This was His solution all along for the world. There are people out there that are looking for a sense of hope, not someone to tell them what the problem is but to tell them about a God who is bigger than their problems. A God who still loves, who still saves, and a God who is in control! Come out of hiding and be the solution. People are waiting on you. We are the solution the world is looking for, it’s time to be the light!
Be still and know that I am God. That verse in Psalm 46:10 always makes me think about how much I am in fact not doing that. In the hustle and bustle of the Christmas season, the last thing we are doing is being still. If your like our family you have something every night of the week from school parties to office parties and everything in between. We barely have time to sit much less to sit and be still. Even though Christmas season is the most wonderful time of the year it also brings a lot of reminders of what we’ve done in the year since the new year is right around the corner. For some people, this could be a great reminder but for most, its not. It just seems like another year has passed and what have I accomplished? In fact, statistically proven depression, loneliness, and anxiety are at an all time high during the Christmas season. When most of us are caught up in the busyness we miss out on those that may be struggling during this time of year. I love the story of Mary and the birth of Jesus for many reasons but mostly because here was this young lady who had goals, dreams, and plans for her life and then out of nowhere she is going to be pregnant and birth the messiah! Whoa! Talk about a life change! Even though she had absolutely no clue what to expect or why her she never questioned God, in fact it says many times that she treasured those things in her heart. She did exactly what Psalm 46 tells us, be still and know. She had every reason to question God or even question if it was actually going to turn out the way it was told but she knew God was for her she only need to be still. Friend, wherever this holiday season finds you, whether it truly is the most wonderful time of the year for you or the holiday season reminds you of failures, brings out depression, or makes you question if God is for you just be still and know that He is God no matter what your circumstances say. Praise Him even when you don’t see Him or understand it. Stop taking inventory of what didn’t happen and start taking inventory of what did happen this year! The most precious thing you can do during this busy season is to stop and honor Him no matter where life finds you. It’s not about the perfect gifts, the perfect house, or the perfect year, but about a perfect God! XO
The new year is right around the corner and I want to challenge you with something this year… stop making New Year’s resolutions! Sure it’s great to have goals and things you wish to accomplish throughout the year but like most of us we hustle hard in the first couple weeks of the new year and then the end of the month hits and we have another month and another, and suddenly you don’t even remember what your goals are. Do you see where this is going? I’ve been there too! And then one day I was sitting in a service and heard a Pastor say this, “stop making new year’s resolutions and seek God for a new years revelation”. Whoa!! This changed everything for me! Now I no longer make goals for things I want to do but I seek God and ask Him what He wants me to do. I love in Psalm 34:4 where the Bible tells us, I sought the Lord and He delivered me. The Bible tells us several times to seek the Lord and you will find Him, knock and the door will be open, so the thing is if we want to really start seeing results we have to stop making it about us and make it more about Him. Resolutions are ways that make you better, how you can achieve goals, how can you accomplish something but a revelation is wholly dependent on who God is and what He can achieve in your life through you. When you start to do this you’ll go from setting goals to achieving goals in no time!
Friend I want to challenge you as the new year quickly approaches to get before God with an open heart, get in his word, seek Him for a New Year revelation. Ask God what do you want me to give the best of my time, energy, and resources to? What is your plan for my life in 2020? Then write it down and go tell somebody about it! I can’t wait to see all that God does through you life in this upcoming year, cheering you on! XO